Who You With?

Who are you hanging out with? Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Do you agree or disagree?

I was talking to my niece, Courtney, the other day and we began discussing her budding career as an interior designer and real estate broker.  As she is growing as a person and starting her career, she wants to hang out with other people who are up to the same things. She can only get so much inspiration and coaching from her cool aunt. None of her current friends have the same drive or opportunities that she has and they don’t want them. She just doesn't understand how she and her friends could be on the opposite side of this issue. 

I too, think about the people I used to hang around and the ones I hang out with now. It's hard to leave your past life behind especially when nostalgia kicks in. You remember having the good ol' days and you think that these people are still good for you. And they may be and most of them aren't.

When you are on a mission and you are working your hardest to create the kind of life you want- some people will need to get left behind. Even if you are on the same page, so to speak, some of your friends and family can hold you back.

When I started on my path to create a new life for myself through transformational work, Sanford was not ok with it. He was used to me being a certain way and I was changing up the rules. You see, he is the kind of person who doesn’t like change- AT ALL. When I move something in the bathroom, it disturbs his flow. Anything that is new makes him feel out of sorts. So when I started changing the way we interacted, he was not happy, to say the least. We are still recalibrating.

As an entrepreneur, it is so important to choose your circle and to keep it tight.

You MUST be around people who are doing things that you want to do, people who believe that anything is possible and people who will cheer you on when you are going for something BIG. I have noticed that my friends who do not have the entrepreneurial spirit really don’t understand what it means to want to continue to grow as a person and a business. They usually can’t see your vision because the risk is too great for them. These are the people who will hold you back every time. 

There is a certain amount of resiliency that you must build too. Every day is not a beautiful lunch in some high end, high vibe restaurant with high vibe people. Some days you will be challenged by your own limitations and your own bullshit! That’s why it is important to have several business besties on speed dial. In addition to besties, I have a mastermind partner who is also a coach. She understands how the industry works and we hold each other accountable for our goals and coach each other when needed. I also have my own coach. My coach teaches me new ways of making $$$$$ and also holds me accountable to what I say I want! 

As you can see I am surrounding myself with people who help me to become the best version of myself. They call me out when I am falling short and they also lift me up when I am on the struggle bus. 

Are the people in your life adding to you or are they derailing you?

It might be time for a “person detox”. 

Who might be 1-2 people that you need to let go of and 1-2 people you might need to add to your life? Message me on social media and let me know your thoughts.